Again, there is depth if genuineness here that leads me to want to respond. Ideally, I wish I had something to offer you. Part of the difficulty with comments, and or texts, is that there is too much room to conflate things into emotional meaning that are not there. Your sensitivity was to better define normality, though I found no objection to your use, or to the objection, allowing for this is a public discourse, and you're right- someone might add meaning and flavor not warranted. That's human. I would recommend if we're looking for normality, we don't put Abby Normal's brain in Frankenstein. :)

I find nothing objectionable in this continued dialogue. Because of the nature of the work, and perhaps, in truth because of, my past, childhood trauma, I have been particularly invested in understanding why and finding remedies. Having an explanation for why someone harmed me does not ameliorate the suffering that resulted. Suffering is always worse than the physical transgression. Even in recommending forgiveness, I do not offer that as a pathway for reconcile. There are some relationships that should not be. I see no need to label that as good or bad, but 'rather it is what it is.' Should you be so inclined to seek to forgive, it is never to absolve other of harm, but rather to relieve self of the burden of carrying it.

Though I have endeavored to be very precise in my language, to the same degree I believe you have endeavored to be equally precise, our sharing is limited. I could spend a year with you unpacking this stuff, and truly not teased out all the ways it has influenced you- in good or bad ways, if you allow for not having a better expression. It is the failure of this mode of communicating that I assume there is still suffering. Not overwhelming, because I also clearly see resolution, commitment to a path, with a sense of self and sense of family- with purpose understanding and love. Maybe it's okay to not be wise and loving in every domain. I know I am not.

Speculatively, if you hit me with a cart and you said sorry, I said no worries, and you said 'i should do it again,' i would laugh and say, 'you're right. I accept apology." Ahh, even in person sometimes communication is in perfect. Person likely was communicating she understood it was not a transgression, but it was important for you to feel heard- this was important.

I think that saying, the peace that passes all understanding... Isn't that a nice dream? Should we all experience that!

May you always find my writing pleasant enough to suffer, or thought provoking. Be prepared, I am human and prone to pissing people off. :) LOL

You're okay, Albert. I will give you a Beatles Song, Uncle Albert.

We're so sorry, uncle Albert

We're so sorry if we caused you any pain

We're so sorry, uncle Albert

But there's no one left at home

And I believe it's gonna rain...

The good thing about this song is goes from rather down to upbeat. So, enjoy your theme song!

Best wishes

john