I would be interested in if you shared the knowledge of the black UFO type with wife prior to the sighting. I assume you didn't, based on the narrative, but that point isn't clear or obvious. It could influence the response, but not by much.

You might find In The Daemon: A Guide to Your Extraordinary Secret Self, Anthony Peake an interesting read. There in seems some extraordinary evidence for the Daemon, that seem to match your experience and interpretation.

Hancock, in a recent video also discusses this aspect- that the UFO phenomena has an aspect to consciousness that can't be dismissed.