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Father and Son
Lessons From the Son
My son is always teaching me new things, about the world, about our relationship, and about me. It’s not always pleasant.
I am always amazed at how much emotion my son evokes. I know enough to know that my emotions are my emotions, and he has done nothing wrong if I emote. I feel because there is something in me that I have not resolved. That is very true. It is also true, if your child is annoying you they are at risk of annoying others, and the goal of the parent is to help the child not be so annoying that they have no friends. Friendships can not be one sided. Life is a balancing act of self-care versus selfishness, at all levels of existence. Are we failing in this basic life negotiation? I frequently wonder if I am…
The intent of this is to ultimately promote gratitude in myself, not disparage others. It is merely me solidifying my thoughts so that I can better examine them. In the process of doing so publicly, I am forced to try and discern if I am being honest or soliciting sympathy. Again, the equation being examined is self-sufficiency versus selfishness.
I wonder how many people are sorting this. Are you? Do you find yourself relating, though you have not considered the words or the formulaic way I am trying to speak…
