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Never Disparage the Ex…

One of the few things I did right in my recovery from loss.

This essay is brought to you today from gratitude, coupled with humility. Just a modicum of humility, as there is some boastfulness that I hit a home run. Quiet would be wise, because in the ‘Practice’ even Babe Ruth struck out. This is not written from the perspective of a counselor. It’s not written to advise, recommend, or any other way intentionally influence you. It’s just something that has occurred to me on multiple occasions, sometimes because I was questioned on it. In a way, I am surprised more people don’t get this. I expect it, like it’s common sense. I don’t find it common. Was it? Has it become vogue to tarnish another’s reputation? Fair, if ex was particularly not right- speaking truth isn’t disparagement. It is what it is. But what if everything we thought of other wasn’t what it seems?

Humans are complex. Seriously, the simpler you think a person is, the more likely there are some subconscious vectors, invisible winds pushing your sails. The more simple someone seems to you, the more likely they would surprise you if you gave them serious study.

A friend casually observed, ‘you never talk bad about your ex.’ They made an opinion that I didn’t endorse. It is my opinion, I explained, what I say…