Oh, how many times have I been stuck in this loop. I burned the t-shirt! :)

I use some of your strategies, and also tend to employ redefining good and bad, the way Hamlet did as there are legal wrongs and social wrongs, and our own concepts of wrongs- and it seems on that last one, the more empathic a person is the more likely they will own things that aren't theirs- which is my other work, boundaries. Surprisingly, one can have boundaries and be empathic... My empathy is now employed as a super power, without me having to carry everything that isn't mine. I still have to regularly clean out my subliminal back pack, but better in degrees. Magical words, sometimes, and instead of better or worse, it's just different.

Nice to meet you, Lalita.