relationships

Rescue Relationships Always End

There is a difference between Interdependent relationships and Co-dependent relationships. Is the absence of a relationship evidence of Co-dependent thinking?

Perhaps it’s more fair to say ‘rescue relations almost always end,’ but that interjection of hope might allow too many people to think they are the exception. “If I just do enough to show I love I will be loved back,” is a recipe for disaster for both parties. A ‘rescuee’ will never give enough applause to the ‘rescuer’ to satisfy the recognition they need to feel satiated. This often leads to resentment, feelings that “I give and give and never get anything back,’ quarreling, and eventually resolution of the relationship. Rescue relationships are the ultimate Co-dependent relationships. Is there a way out that leads to Interdependent relationships?

I have found enough evidence for a pattern of Codependent relationships to make some solid good predictions. Usually if I see the pattern of rescue relationships, I can predict a fairly turbulent childhood. Most rescue relationships have childhood abuse/trauma. Usually both rescuer and rescuee have abuse/trauma in their past. The younger they are in experiencing the abuse/trauma, the more likely they will engage…