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just life
When I was growing up, my father was frequently absent. Don’t worry, this is not a poor me story, and my father wasn’t absent due to character flaws. He was in the Navy. His tours ranged anywhere from nine months to a year at sea. Now, it is true that my family is a bit nuts, and he has jested with me that he opted for sea to avoid that ‘nonsense.’ (That wasn’t his word. He is a sailor and knew how to curse prior to Smokey and the Bandit.) And, yes, there has been some poor me moments. I am human. Another human thing I did was promise my future life with child would be different. Damn it, how did I get here?
Television raised me. I probably have some memes that need therapy. Eddie’s father was one of my ideal male figures. Spock was the number one idealized character. I want to be an intellectual. I get annoyed that biology and emotions get in the way. I am a better integrated today, but I am struggling to engage a 7 year old through skype in idealized ways. He is one smart kid. He knows how to end a skype call when the conversations get tough.
Damn it, Bart!
The first 6 years, Before Divorce (BD)
I was there for his birth. It was rough for his mother and it eventually resulted in emergency C-section. I stayed in the hospital with them for three days. I think I was the only…
